Get Ex Back – First Think About Why He or She Left

If you need help to get your ex back, then – ahead of making any hasty decisions – you have to take some time to sit down and think about what really happened. Did you drive him or her away or did he or she leave you?

The answer to this question will determine which path you need to take to be able to win your ex back.

Whenever someone leaves a relationship there are actually three reasons for it: He or she found another person; or is looking secretly for someone else and do not want you to discover their intention to leave you; or perhaps you have done something that has hurt so much that it makes him or her believe that they are not wanted any more.

If he or she has found someone else, do you really want to get your ex back?

If someone has left once means they do not value the relationship enough to care about you. Chances are extremely high that that person would do it again.

This is actually not a healthy relationship. The truth is it is not a relationship at all. It is an infatuation on your part. He or she is just along for the ride.

If he or she left simply because of wanting someone else without even finding them yet is usually an obvious indication of two things: It is over between the two of you, and he or she is not ready to settle down with just one person.

Not even having someone else lined up suggests they might not want to be tied to just one person, which is also cause to run rather than thinking of how to get your ex back.

The last situation is the best option since it usually means that he or she cares for you.

If someone leaves as a consequence of being hurt by you, then they still care.

That means there is a chance for them of coming back provided you make amends in the right way.

You need to immediately contact him or her to talk. However, do not do it in person, just over the phone. And neither send any emails nor texts. It is important for him or her to hear the sincerity in your voice.

Remain calm and ask to think about giving you another chance. Tell that the separation has opened your eyes to understand being without him or her hurts too much. The relationship is still worth working on, and you are willing to commit whatever it takes to prove it.

Next, let the other side talk. Ask what it would need to bring you back together. The more he or she talks, the better are your chances to get your ex back.